Something I think sets apart surviving from thriving is some who is intentional. If you were to look at my calendar right now you would find a lot of intentional ear-marked time. Work time, family time, date night, time with mom, monthly business meeting, mentor talks, rest time, vacation time to name a few. Haha, some peoples heads are already spinning, but stay with me, because intentional has been one of my biggest factors in sustaining my values and goals as a busy working mom. To have the life you want and go after your dreams there has to be a plan. There has to be hard work. There has to be the intention. It doesn’t just magically happen. You have to make it happen.
My husband always makes fun of me that I like to have our whole lives planned out. I basically divvy out what time I have to the areas I want to put the most intention. If I want a stronger marriage I put a weekly connect time on the calendar. A good marriage doesn’t just happen. It is not just serendipitous chemistry that just comes “easy” to some people. It takes work! It takes planning date nights even though your tired. It is putting your phones down to talk nightly. It is choosing to forgive and ask for help when needed. These acts that create a strong marriage which takes intention.
If I want to grow our business I mark off time to research or attend a class on business growth. There are also monthly/yearly staples like monthly mentor time, family business meetings, and vision casting retreat.
Planning these items are crucial for personal and business growth when you have such a busy schedule. If I don’t carve them out on the calendar, you would be surprised how often these things go overlooked. You blink and 3 months has already passed by! One of the biggest areas I devote time to is my family. Sound pretty sad that it does not just come naturally for me, but often times it is the first things to go out the window. If I don’t resolve early on that each night is ear-marked for family, I find I fill that space with catching up on emails, scrolling thought facebook, or zoning out on tv.
For me it has helped to make each night a theme: Monday – Game Night, Tuesday – Learning Night, Wednesday – Church, Thursday – Date night (Either with Marcos or kids), Friday – Movie Night, Weekend- Camps.
We all honestly look forward to our time together knowing something fun is coming. Do we always stick to the plan, No. Sometimes things come up but just having a plan in place helps us not waste our nights on frivolous things.
As a busy working mom, trying to grow a business, and be a great wife and mom this format seems to be working. I think it is because we are being intentional with our time. It is not just about saying no to a bunch of things and making “white-space”. For me, it is about creating the life I want to have and having my calendar reflect my goals and values. As you can tell I have a lot of goals I am working towards!
If you find that you don’t have enough time for the things that matter to you, I encourage you to be more intentional with your time. It is worth trying to figure out what you need out of life and then be committed to it. I would love to hear how you are intentional with your time and what areas you wish you had more time for.
Next blog I will go into more detail of how to block off intentional time and how to create a buffer for when things don’t go according to plan!